How to Get Laid on a First Date
Alright, fellas. You’re here because you’re wondering how to increase your chances of turning that first date into a night to remember.
Some basics first:
Step 1: Plan a Date That’s Actually Fun
See our guide on best first date ideas – hint a local bar with good vibes is always the best play with a 2nd/3rd location take her
Step 2: Texting and Set Up
Text suggestively leading up to a date. Keep it fun, playful and confident
“hey there sexy”
“I’ll see you later tonight gorgeous”
“send me some pictures of you in that outfit”
“I think something like this (insert sexy outfit) would look good on you”
“mmm if you’re a good girl, I’ll let you see the view at my place after dinner”
Set up is critical, if you are texting boring leading up to the date, she is going to mentally have you in a certain bucket before the date even begins.
Step 3: Look Like You Showered Recently (Because Hygiene = Sexy)
Nothing kills the vibe faster than looking like you just crawled out of a gamer den after a 72-hour Call of Duty marathon. Take a shower. Use deodorant. Bonus points if you smell amazing—a signature cologne can be your wingman.
Step 4: Dress nicely and appropriately for the location.
Not too over the top but not down either. A good outfit is a conversation topic and will show her you are put together properly. Think business casual or something more preppy.
Quick Tip:
Invest in good shoes. Women notice. Those beat-up sneakers you’ve had since college? Burn them. Right now.
Step 5: Master the Art of Listening
Now you are actually on the date with her
Here’s the thing: People love talking about themselves, and women are no exception. Be genuinely interested in what she’s saying. Ask questions. React like a human who’s engaged in the conversation.
Active listening goes a long way. Nod, smile, and throw in a “Wow, that’s so cool” every now and then or ask a relevant question.
Step 6: The Power of Playful Touch
Touch is essential for building chemistry… when done right. Start small: a light touch on her arm when you’re laughing, a playful nudge, or letting your knees graze under the table. If she’s into it, she’ll respond in kind.
Step 7: Alcohol is Social Lubricant to Lower Inhibitions
Alcohol is really key generally speaking to getting laid on a first date. Most people (including even me) are nervous on a first date. Having just 1 drink can really help with that, even more so with women.
This is why choosing a good local bar is key.
If you really don’t drink, then order a mocktail and still take part and make her feel comfortable
Step 8: Multiple Locations
If you have read any number of my guides, you will know that moving a date to a second or even third location, greatly increases your chances of taking a home girl for some extra cardio.
It builds trust, adds more alcohol and makes everyone build confidence. Generally, the later the night gets and the more locations, the better your chances.
Step 9: The Smooth Exit Strategy
If things are going well and you’re both vibing, here’s where you drop the ballsy line: “I’m really enjoying tonight. Want to come back to my place for another drink?” Simple, direct, and non-sleazy. If she says no, respect it and don’t sulk and just try during the next date I think of it as planting seeds and also its always going to be a roll of the dice
If she says yes, congratulations, you’re in.
Step 10: Don’t Be a Terrible Host
If she comes back to your place, don’t ruin it. Your apartment doesn’t need to look like a Pinterest board, but it shouldn’t smell like feet and despair either. Offer her a drink, play some music, and don’t immediately pounce like a starving cheetah. Let the moment build
Final Thoughts: Confidence Is King
Ultimately, the key to success is confidence, good planning/set up and then just basic execution. Its not about getting laid on the first date, but just increasing your chances each time you go out.