Part 8 - Hot Sex & Retainment

The Ultimate Guide to Having Great Sex: A Playbook for Men

You are finally here, great job! At this stage, remember the most important thing is to relax and have fun. If you put too much pressure on yourself (or her), it will be felt and ruin the mood.

Like everything else up until this point, sex and being good at it, is a journey that you will improve on over time, whether with this girl, the next one or in general.

Start Before the Bedroom

Some things to help:

• Flirt like you mean it: Compliment her in a way that makes her feel desired but not objectified. “You’re gorgeous” works, but “I can’t stop looking at you tonight” hits differently.
• Touch, but casually: Light, lingering touches on her hand, arm, or lower back can create anticipation. Don’t go overboard—subtlety wins here.
• Be attentive: Listen to her, laugh at her jokes, and make her feel like the only woman in the room. Emotional connection = better physical chemistry.
• If you have ED (erectile dysfunction): address this accordingly either with meds, or identify the root cause and fix. A combination of a good diet, rest, and kegel exercises will help. Avoid masturbating close to the date and avoid watching too much porn (although we have nothing against porn, excessive watching is awful for you)

Foreplay

Women need foreplay and time to warm up.

• Kiss like you mean it: Don’t just peck her lips and call it a day. Vary the tempo, intensity, and placement—kiss her neck, shoulders, and other sensitive spots.
• Explore her body: Take your time. Use your hands, lips, and even light teasing to make her feel good. Her body isn’t a speedrun; it’s a scenic route.
• Communication is sexy: Ask what she likes and pay attention to her reactions. Does she breathe heavier or pull you closer? That’s your green light.

Master the Main Event

When it’s time to get down to business, here’s how to make sure it’s not just good, but great.

• Be Present
• Focus on her cues: Her body will tell you what feels good—listen to it.
• Slow is sexy: Don’t rush through like it’s a race. Vary your pace and build up the intensity.
• The Basics of Great Technique:
• Mix it up: Change positions, angles, and rhythms. Predictability is the enemy of excitement.
• Use your hands and mouth: Don’t rely solely on one move. Alternate between touch, kisses, and other creative ways to please her.
• Communicate: Ask what feels good, but don’t make it clinical. A simple, “Do you like that?” can work wonders.

Make Her Orgasm

Her pleasure should be just as important as yours—if not more. The better you make her feel, the more she’ll want to come back for round two (and three).

Tips to Help Her Finish:

Clitoral stimulation is key: Most women don’t orgasm from penetration alone. Use your hands, mouth, or a toy to help.

Check the angles: Certain positions can help her hit her sweet spots (cowgirl, doggy with an angle, or missionary with her hips elevated).

Take your time: Let her pace her pleasure. If she’s close, slow things down or hold steady to let her finish.

If you like (and she likes) introducing some toys into the equation. Here are few thing that I like to use:

• Dildo
• Bondage Set
  

Aftercare Matters

What you do after sex is just as important as what you do during. It’s about making her feel safe, appreciated, and cared for.

• Cuddle: Even if you’re not the cuddly type, make an effort. Physical closeness releases feel-good hormones and deepens the bond.
• Compliment her: A simple “You’re incredible” or “That was amazing” goes a long way.
• Check in: Ask, “How are you feeling?” or “Did you enjoy that?” It shows you care about her experience.
• Stay present: Don’t immediately reach for your phone or fall asleep. Stay engaged for at least a few minutes.

Bonus Tips for Legendary Status

• Learn her preferences: Every woman is different. The more you know what she likes, the better the experience will be for both of you.
• Stay open-minded: Be willing to try new things, whether it’s a new position, location, or even toys.
• Practice makes perfect: Good sex takes practice and communication. Don’t be afraid to experiment and refine your skills.
• Confidence is sexy: Even if you’re nervous, act with confidence. If you make a mistake, laugh it off and keep going—nobody’s perfect.

Final Thoughts: Great Sex is About Connection

At the end of the day, great sex isn’t just about technique or how many tricks you have up your sleeve. It’s about the connection, trust, and shared enjoyment between two people. Prioritize her comfort and pleasure, and she’ll remember the experience for all the right reasons and be back for more.

This concludes our free guide and we wish you the very best on your journey.

But we have only scratched the surface, to really take it to the next level be sure to either buy our ebook and/or schedule coaching with us if you need more help and personalized support.